Need to get this out of my chest

gatos · Nov 23rd, 2012, 00:26

Need to get something out of my chest as I am really annoyed with the actions of one member here. I am not going to mention names or be very specific, so here it goes. Sometime ago, a member here needed a part and they've contacted me directly to see if I had it. I did, so I offered it for a lot less than the cheapest one I could find on ebay. I have dealt with him in the past too and had no issues. Anyway as most of you here know I always check and double check all parts I send out to people and make sure they are in good order. As far as I can recall, I have only twice sent a faulty part to two members here and I immediately refunded the money including the postage.

Anyway, the part I am on about was definitely working perfectly fine, as I drove that car and even if it was ever so slightly faulty, it would be obvious to even the most clueless person out there. Anyway, a couple of days later, I got a call that the part was working, but that there was a problem with it. I instantly apologized and offered another one which I have kept as a back up for my own car and the original part was given back to me. I didn't bother checking it at the time, as I had no reason not to believe or trust that person and I just put it aside, as I like taking things apart to see how they work. This evening, I picked up the part and by closer inspection, I've realized that some of the inner parts were smashed to bits. Now I know for sure that this was not like that before, as I would have never sold it to anyone. So either that member has returned me another faulty part, or somehow managed to damage the one I've originally sent them. One small nut or bolt forgotten loose in that part would cause that sort of damage. If it was a cheap part, I wouldn't be so bothered, but is not and in the process, I gave away my own back up.

I always try to help (where and when I can) anyone who needs help can and try to treat people the same way I want to be treated. For someone in this forum to do something likes this, it is absolutely disgusting and it has really p!ssed me off. Is this what I get in return for getting out of my way for helping someone out? This is f*cking ridiculous and it makes me feel like a complete mug. I was under the impression that people here (specially regular members) had the same way of thinking and treated each other with respect. For something like this to happen is a hard kick to the balls and it makes me think why the f*ck I even bother anymore. It really sucks.

I am really sorry for the tirade, but I am in a very foul mood this evening. I should also state that 99% of the people here have been absolutely perfect with me to date and by no means do I have a problem with them.

So to cap it all, this is for the member here who pulled a fast one on me.

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and just to remind you that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I will not name and shame you here, but if you ever need anything or any help you will definitely not get it from me. And you will be added to my ignore list from now on

david philips · Nov 23rd, 2012, 01:03

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and just to remind you that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I will not name and shame you here, but if you ever need anything or any help you will definitely not get it from me. And you will be added to my ignore list from now on

sorry this happened to you, know what the worst thing is ? whoever done this has not only let himself down but hurt everyone on the forum by taking advantage of your good nature.

well said for the above statement and dont let the b****** grind you down.

Neillyboy78 · Nov 23rd, 2012, 02:12

Ah m8 dont let it bother you too much....As annoying as it is you'll come across people like that now and again in life.Most folk on these Forums are 100% brand new and go out there way to help other's....There are dishonest ar*eholes out there everywhere and you've come across one unfortunately....just put it down to expierience and forget about it dude!!

twilightflyer · Nov 23rd, 2012, 06:19

Gatos, you are one of the nicest people on this forum and yes you go out of your way to help,I have purchased items from you with no problem what so ever, you have even put me on to guys who have parts you don't have.
If ever I need a part you are my first port of call.(relaced those backplates by the way and used the bolts that you very kindly sent me).
Its true there are those types of of guys who would look you in the face take money out of your pocket and then stab you in the back for good measure.
It's a pity that the powers to be cannot place a ban on people like this on using this forum,it least it would stop him/her using this forum as a means to an end.
Keep your chin up Alex and I'm sure that he will get his comupance.

Cornishv40 · Nov 23rd, 2012, 07:31

It is sad when this happens alex.

stephend · Nov 23rd, 2012, 09:12

Really sorry to hear this, Gatos. Very frustrating when someone takes advantage like that... Your input into this Forum, and all the help and advice you give to other members, would be sorely missed, so I hope this bad experience doesn't sour the whole thing for you.

mitchyboy01 · Nov 23rd, 2012, 09:41

Sorry to hear that Alex, there are some dishonest idiots although thankfully the minority. I've had it before in the past on ebay when I've sent out known good parts only to be told it doesn't work. Then receive a faulty one as a return after refund. Parts obviously swapped over then faulty one sent back. What I do now is always put a tiny mark somewhere on the part so only I know it's there. Then I know for sure if it's the original part that has been returned.

Clan · Nov 23rd, 2012, 09:47

If that was me i'd go to his house ( where ever it was ! ) and knock the door , staying very calm and put down the facts .. you will probably find hes as nice as pie face to face and give you your money back ...

dcw · Nov 23rd, 2012, 10:08

Really sorry to hear about this - it's always a shame when this sort of thing happens because it undermines the whole "mutual support" ethos both of forums like this one and particularly people like you, Gatos, doing what you do.

I don't think I have ever had anything from you (yet!), but I am well aware that there are loads of people on here whose cars are probably only in top shape thanks to you, and you'd be my first port of call if needed.

I hope it helped getting it off your chest - and well done for taking the attitude you have over "naming and shaming", otherwise it can desecend into a slanging match that achieves absolutely nothing.

Don't let the situation get you down - I'd like to think (as you yourself said) that 99% of the people on here are genuine!

David

happy diver · Nov 23rd, 2012, 10:18

Santorini sounds nice.

Nov 23rd, 2012, 00:26	#1
gatos Premier Member Last Online: Nov 15th, 2022 21:34 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: London / Essex	Need to get this out of my chest Need to get something out of my chest as I am really annoyed with the actions of one member here. I am not going to mention names or be very specific, so here it goes. Sometime ago, a member here needed a part and they've contacted me directly to see if I had it. I did, so I offered it for a lot less than the cheapest one I could find on ebay. I have dealt with him in the past too and had no issues. Anyway as most of you here know I always check and double check all parts I send out to people and make sure they are in good order. As far as I can recall, I have only twice sent a faulty part to two members here and I immediately refunded the money including the postage. Anyway, the part I am on about was definitely working perfectly fine, as I drove that car and even if it was ever so slightly faulty, it would be obvious to even the most clueless person out there. Anyway, a couple of days later, I got a call that the part was working, but that there was a problem with it. I instantly apologized and offered another one which I have kept as a back up for my own car and the original part was given back to me. I didn't bother checking it at the time, as I had no reason not to believe or trust that person and I just put it aside, as I like taking things apart to see how they work. This evening, I picked up the part and by closer inspection, I've realized that some of the inner parts were smashed to bits. Now I know for sure that this was not like that before, as I would have never sold it to anyone. So either that member has returned me another faulty part, or somehow managed to damage the one I've originally sent them. One small nut or bolt forgotten loose in that part would cause that sort of damage. If it was a cheap part, I wouldn't be so bothered, but is not and in the process, I gave away my own back up. I always try to help (where and when I can) anyone who needs help can and try to treat people the same way I want to be treated. For someone in this forum to do something likes this, it is absolutely disgusting and it has really p!ssed me off. Is this what I get in return for getting out of my way for helping someone out? This is fcking ridiculous and it makes me feel like a complete mug. I was under the impression that people here (specially regular members) had the same way of thinking and treated each other with respect. For something like this to happen is a hard kick to the balls and it makes me think why the fck I even bother anymore. It really sucks. I am really sorry for the tirade, but I am in a very foul mood this evening. I should also state that 99% of the people here have been absolutely perfect with me to date and by no means do I have a problem with them. So to cap it all, this is for the member here who pulled a fast one on me. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and just to remind you that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I will not name and shame you here, but if you ever need anything or any help you will definitely not get it from me. And you will be added to my ignore list from now on __________________ Current car: 2002 S40 1.9D, 1992 240SE Nullius in Verba Last edited by gatos; Nov 23rd, 2012 at 00:48.

Nov 23rd, 2012, 02:12	#3
Neillyboy78 Senior Member Last Online: Aug 15th, 2013 22:30 Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Fife	Ah m8 dont let it bother you too much....As annoying as it is you'll come across people like that now and again in life.Most folk on these Forums are 100% brand new and go out there way to help other's....There are dishonest ar*eholes out there everywhere and you've come across one unfortunately....just put it down to expierience and forget about it dude!! __________________ P2 2001 V40 T4 Mods to date:Coilovers,Jetex cat back,eggcrate grille,Forge dump valve(lol),clear side markers,drilled/grooved discs,black crator's

Nov 23rd, 2012, 07:31	#5
Cornishv40 Master Member Last Online: Aug 1st, 2023 20:43 Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: BATCAVE	It is sad when this happens alex. __________________ 2003 V40 1.9 D SPORT 272K 2001 V40 T4 SPORT 134K ipse se nihil scire id unum sciat

Nov 23rd, 2012, 09:12	#6
stephend Premier Member Last Online: Dec 23rd, 2023 21:20 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: S. Wales View Photos By: stephend	Really sorry to hear this, Gatos. Very frustrating when someone takes advantage like that... Your input into this Forum, and all the help and advice you give to other members, would be sorely missed, so I hope this bad experience doesn't sour the whole thing for you. __________________ 1989 740 GL 2.0 estate 2000 V40 2.0 (gone) 2005 Toyota Avensis 2.0 estate (gone) 2012 Ford Mondeo 2.2 TDCi estate 1999 Land Rover Discovery 2 TD5

Nov 23rd, 2012, 09:41	#7
mitchyboy01 Premier Member Last Online: Oct 25th, 2020 06:40 Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Dover	Sorry to hear that Alex, there are some dishonest idiots although thankfully the minority. I've had it before in the past on ebay when I've sent out known good parts only to be told it doesn't work. Then receive a faulty one as a return after refund. Parts obviously swapped over then faulty one sent back. What I do now is always put a tiny mark somewhere on the part so only I know it's there. Then I know for sure if it's the original part that has been returned. __________________ 855R, Standard, Manual, Black Interior. Nice. Stage 5 Saab 9-3 Aero V6 2.8T. 372bhp. 677nm.

Nov 23rd, 2012, 01:03	#2
david philips panic captain manwaring ? Last Online: Jul 2nd, 2018 17:16 Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: craggy island	YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and just to remind you that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I will not name and shame you here, but if you ever need anything or any help you will definitely not get it from me. And you will be added to my ignore list from now on sorry this happened to you, know what the worst thing is ? whoever done this has not only let himself down but hurt everyone on the forum by taking advantage of your good nature. well said for the above statement and dont let the b****** grind you down.

Nov 23rd, 2012, 06:19	#4
twilightflyer Senior Member Last Online: Jul 16th, 2023 11:37 Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: East Yorkshire	Gatos, you are one of the nicest people on this forum and yes you go out of your way to help,I have purchased items from you with no problem what so ever, you have even put me on to guys who have parts you don't have. If ever I need a part you are my first port of call.(relaced those backplates by the way and used the bolts that you very kindly sent me). Its true there are those types of of guys who would look you in the face take money out of your pocket and then stab you in the back for good measure. It's a pity that the powers to be cannot place a ban on people like this on using this forum,it least it would stop him/her using this forum as a means to an end. Keep your chin up Alex and I'm sure that he will get his comupance.

Nov 23rd, 2012, 09:47	#8
Clan Experienced Member Last Online: Today 15:07 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: L/H side	If that was me i'd go to his house ( where ever it was ! ) and knock the door , staying very calm and put down the facts .. you will probably find hes as nice as pie face to face and give you your money back ... __________________ My comments are only based on my opinions and vast experience .

Nov 23rd, 2012, 10:08	#9
dcw VOC Member Last Online: May 1st, 2024 19:45 Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: YORK	Really sorry to hear about this - it's always a shame when this sort of thing happens because it undermines the whole "mutual support" ethos both of forums like this one and particularly people like you, Gatos, doing what you do. I don't think I have ever had anything from you (yet!), but I am well aware that there are loads of people on here whose cars are probably only in top shape thanks to you, and you'd be my first port of call if needed. I hope it helped getting it off your chest - and well done for taking the attitude you have over "naming and shaming", otherwise it can desecend into a slanging match that achieves absolutely nothing. Don't let the situation get you down - I'd like to think (as you yourself said) that 99% of the people on here are genuine! David

Nov 23rd, 2012, 10:18	#10
happy diver Active Member Moment Last Online: Apr 29th, 2023 05:58 Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Brisbane: perfect for one day, asleep the rest	Santorini sounds nice.

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